VirgoAnnie wrote:
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Hornet wrote:
AAhhh how I understand. And ,sadly, the last words spoken between me and dad, before I was notified that he had gone into the hospice were "Even if you're my daughter, you're the biggest asshole I know", to which I replied "I'll see you at your funeral". Although, holding his hand during a night long vigil, the time came when I felt him stop. A gutteral, feral wail came from the deepest part of me, totally shocking and unexpected. I do feel there is a sense of forgiveness, but my dad never ever encouraged me in any of my talents or interests; I was the "dumb" one.

So listen up, daddies (and some moms too)
I can not understand how any parent can feel like that about their children. No matter whether you and your child has differences,i have always felt a parents love is unconditional. A BIG HUG for you too.Smilie_hug  He was "The dumb one"

Thank you very much for that Annie. Dad was a manipulative person from his early years, while his dad was stationed somewhere in Britain during the war, and dad was the "man" of the house, bossing his younger siblings around - only to have it come full swing at him when his father returned to"usurp' him. He carried that emotional manipulation for the rest of his life. Yes, he really was the "dumb one".