I understand what you mean. Sometimes I have to try and stop myself saying some things which may seem to be condescending.
I don't mean them this way; but when you have children in their 50's, and grandchildren in their 30's, it can be difficult when you are speaking to people of this age and younger to treat them as an equal.

On the other hand some of them have attempted to talk down to old granny - who knows nothing of course - and I have to try and suppress the grin at the memories of changing the pompous brat's nappies. LOL